Living as a Leader
So, what is sovereignty? I believe sovereignty is the empowered exercise of our free will – our ability to make choices – for the highest good of all. We display our sovereignty when we take ownership of our lives and of the business through which we sell our skills.
Standing in our sovereignty requires speaking our truth without dilution. We need to embrace the strength of our message, without weakening it by dumbing it down, playing safe or being beige. We need to challenge ourselves to remove the equivocation, the “justs,” “buts” and “maybes” that we use to pretend that we don’t totally believe in what we are saying, in case it offends someone else or leads them to criticise us. It is stepping out from behind the masks and personas into the reality of who we are at our deepest level of self-understanding. When we are standing in our sovereignty, we are attuned to our highest purpose, acting compassionately in the best interests of all.
Standing in our sovereignty means being who we are – anchored in the I that is the we – without apology. Since we are tuned in to our integrity, we make the choice to only apologise when we really mean it. We stop apologising for taking up space, for inconveniencing others, for being too much or not enough. We care enough to interact with empathy and awareness, noticing when our conduct has hurt someone, and being genuine in expressing our regret without self-justification. We stop making our wrongdoing the fault of other people and remember that a meaningful apology is a sincere offer to heal the relationship by making reparation, not a demand for forgiveness.
When we use words of apology like “sorry” indiscriminately and automatically, it robs it of meaning and undermines our self-confidence. To step fully into our sovereignty, we need to cultivate an overriding awareness of our inner truth and use that as our touchstone at all times – or as often as is humanly possible – while forgiving ourselves for all of the inevitable times when we forget or fail. Seen through this lens, an automatic or meaningless “sorry” is a lie, which is a betrayal of our integrity, especially where we are apologising for our existence or for having dared to speak our truth.
The best thing about sovereignty is that we are not on this journey alone. No sovereign exercises her power in isolation. As an embodied commitment to spiritual conscience, we take strategic action with SUPPORT. We don't try to do it all by ourselves. We reach out for connection, we ask for help, we learn from others, we share our struggles as well as our celebrations. When we surround ourselves with other sovereign leaders, we find it easier to keep our focus on seeking solutions even when we feel paralysed by problems.
However, we must also remember to choose our support systems and people with integrity. We need to choose carefully and use our values and vision as filters before allowing others to influence us. A sovereign leader does not flit from shiny thing to shiny thing. A sovereign leader weighs the true worth of any message on her own value scale before taking it on board or using it for direction.
MAKE THIS YOUR OWN
- I see sovereignty as the empowered exercise of free will – our ability to make choices – for the highest good of all. Do you have anything to add to this definition?
- We exercise sovereignty by speaking our truth without dilution. Where are you watering down your message or holding yourself back for fear of offending someone?
- Seen through the lens of sovereignty, an automatic or meaningless “sorry” is a lie, which is a betrayal of our integrity, especially where we are apologising for our existence or for having dared to speak our truth. Can you identify anywhere that this applies in your business?
- We are not required to exercise our sovereignty alone – sovereignty involves enlisting strategic support. Who do you rely on for support, and how do they advance your vision?