You are More than Enough
Stepping into sovereignty also requires a great deal of trust in yourself. So far, this course may have made it sound like it is all about you – who you are, what you need, what you want – and it is true, it is. At the same time, we all need a regular reminder to check our ego at the door and remember that compassion and caring for others is what brings forth our very best work. Our ego creates the sense of division between ourselves and others, leading us to be overly concerned with our own wellbeing at the cost of empathising with others.
An important component of our spiritual work as sovereign leaders is to break down these barriers. Our boundaries are not there to keep us separate – their role is to care for us so that we are better able to care for others. When we are not getting our needs met, when we are mired in a mess of resentment and victimhood, ego is having a field day. All our preconceptions about our lack of worthiness are being validated, at the same time as our inner voice gets to complain constantly about the lack of respect and consideration we are receiving. Can you imagine any situation more likely to shut down our connection to spirit and our higher self?
In order to being trusting that we are enough, we need to manage this mental conversation. If we don’t, the constant clutter of negative emotions interferes drastically with our ability to make decisions from a space of integrity. All of that anger, annoyance and upset clog up our filters, and our values and vision are pushed into the back seat while our mental ranting pendulums between how badly we are being treated, how unfair it all is, how we deserve better, and how we are mad as hell and not going to take it anymore.
When we get caught up in this loop of self-righteous thinking, we need to give ourselves time to process the triggers and trauma, by actively observing what is coming up for us. When we cultivate this internal awareness and recognise that we are not our thoughts, we allow those negative thoughts to flow on by without catching us up and tumbling us around quite so much. We are able to come back to our calm centre sooner, where we are once again in touch with our intentions and can choose actions based on integrity rather than transient emotion.
Another essential piece of this puzzle is learning to let go of the results, in whatever form works for you. (For me, that means giving it to God.) Once we have made a decision, set an intention or taken an action, we need to get out of the habit of hanging onto it and worrying it like a dog with a bone. Our part is done, and whatever happens next is beyond our control. When we start trusting ourselves to be enough, we can experience the peace of trusting that whatever happens next is out of our hands and will be perfect (even if it is painful).
We need to realise that the flipside of taking radical responsibility for our own choices and actions is recognising that we are not in control of anything other than that moment of decision-making. Our ONLY control is over the intentions that we set and the way in which we use them as a guide and filter for our decisions. That is why setting those intentions with integrity – and understanding what integrity means for us at its deepest level – is so very important. Everything else is beyond our control and must be surrendered, if we don’t want to be constantly tugged to and fro by the drama and chaos. The integrity that guides our decision-making is the only thing that is truly ours – the bedrock of our sovereignty.
MAKE THIS YOUR OWN
- The ego tends to trick us with promises of freedom, while leading us away from the actions necessary to achieve our goals and our spiritual purpose. Focusing on our ideal of service and connection to our higher self helps reconnect us with our integrity. In what ways does your ego lead you astray?
- What tools do you have to help you observe and shift out of the mental clutter of negative emotions? Do you take time to ground yourself, process the triggers and trauma, and come back to your calm centre, or do you get spun around by the drama and chaos?
- The only thing we control is our decisions. We have no control over the outcomes. The more we accept that and surrender the illusion of control, the less we get dragged back into drama and chaos. How can you internalise this understanding so it sticks with you?